Photo credit: Austin Day |
Alto Cayma has been full of visitors lately -- a couple of them mine, a few others from Sweden and England, and the great majority students from three universities in Wisconsin.
I’ve been watching these students and volunteers as they interact with members of the community and work on their projects, and I’ve felt myself experiencing something that strongly resembles textbook envy. When nothing seems to be going right in the knitting workshop and all progress forward seems to have been erased overnight, and on the days when I’m forced to tell a knitter that the sweater she’s turned in didn’t come out to the right measurements and must be done over, I find myself looking at these visitors and longing to share in their excitement at the newness of everything and the beautiful simplicity of their budding relationships with the people of Alto Cayma.
I watch their different projects unfold and I can't help but wonder what it would it be like to start over. To go to a new place, work with a different community -- maybe right here in Arequipa or maybe on another continent -- and start fresh. Perhaps a temporary project that doesn't require sustained engagement or participant buy-in, or a plan dealing with food insecurity or environmental issues, or maybe best of all, a program where I can use the knowledge I’ve gained without having to deal with the consequences of the mistakes that were made in the process.
But even as I’ve been musing about these alternate visions of the present and future, I've also been remembering.
Several times over the past few days I’ve caught my mind wandering back to where I was and what was happening in my body at this time last year as the Guillain-Barré Throw Down of 2012 was just beginning. On that Tuesday I was trying to understand why my legs no longer wanted to carry me up the hill to the workshop. Thursday I was told I had to get on a plane the next day and was being packed up by dear friends and the Ñañas. Yesterday I would have been passing through Houston, rescued from the airport for a few hours by my heroic tíos, and finally being carried to the car by my family at the Des Moines airport and driven to the hospital.
But it was Friday’s memories that were the strongest reminder of why I am once again far from friends and family (and feeling even farther as Lindsey nears the due date of her first child and my grandparents steadily age) and instead still trying each day to create an organized and sustainable business model with women whose lives are completely unpredictable in a culture that is not my own.
On May 31st last year I spent most of the day in the volunteer house trying to conserve my energy and preparing for the long trip home. As I lay resting, Ñañas came into my room two or three at a time to check on me and squeeze my hand and tell me that I would recover quickly and return soon. From time to time Andrea would also come in, helping me to sit up then bearing all my weight on her wiry little frame as she walked me to the bathroom and then returned me to my bed and tried to get me to eat. Then when it was time to go, they sat me in a chair by the door and the Nañas formed a line and one by one came forward to hold me tight and whisper fierce words of love and courage in my ear. Armed with this strength, I made it through the 24-hour journey home and the months of recovery that followed.
This, I realize, is what makes the frustrations, expectations and disappointments that arise on both sides of a long-term commitment worthy of sacrifice. These deep bonds that are forged over time from shared struggle and mutual need sustain us and ultimately are the answer to the question of why we stay put and continue pushing on even after that initial glow of newness has worn away.
I don’t know yet whether the Chiri project will turn out to be what the Ñañas decide they want or need or whether it can ever really be self-sustaining, but for now we’ll continue on, sometimes dragging our feet, often stumbling, but occasionally surefooted as we face the future.
In gratitude to everyone who got me from this home
to my other home and back to Peru. Thank you.
to my other home and back to Peru. Thank you.